Graveside Reflections

Connecting with the Past; Praying for their Peace

My great grandfather’s grave

When my recent soul-searching began, I found myself reflecting on my friends, family, and loved ones who had passed away. In the past, I had always dismissed visiting the resting places of those who had passed away as a waste of time. Now, I've come to understand that visiting these places can bring closure, healing, comfort, and gratitude, while also serving as a meaningful way to honor their memory.

Visiting a grave can be a deeply meaningful and therapeutic experience, providing a tangible way to express love, respect, and remembrance. Also, it is considered an act of mercy to pray for those who have passed on. Interestingly, early Christians were among the first to use the term "cemetery" to refer to a burial place, deriving from a Greek word meaning "a sleeping place."¹

I visited my great-grandparents’ graves at St. Mary’s Cemetery and prayed for them. I visited Assumption Cemetery, where I prayed at the graves of my father, paternal grandparents, aunts, and uncles.

My father’s grave

I visited my friend Mike’s grave at Oakwood Cemetery and prayed for him. I began by saying, “Hi Mike. I know you might not approve, but I hope you don't mind if I pray for you.”

Mike’s grave

I visited my friend Jamie's grave at Onondaga Valley Cemetery and spent time in prayer for him.

Jamie’s grave

Visiting my loved ones who have passed away has enriched me, offering profound moments of reflection and a deep connection with my past. It serves not only as a way to honor their memory but also as a path to finding peace and solace in the memories and legacies they left behind, and the significant roles they played in shaping my life.

Do you pray for loved ones who have passed away?

1. https://www.etymonline.com/word/cemetery